Your looking through the pictures on a popular dating site and come across a sexy girl you like. You look at her profile and think, ‘wow, we got things in common’.

So what do you do now? The first email you send to her is probably the most important email, because, if she doesn’t reply, you don’t get a date

So what do you put in your first email? From personal experience, this comes down to science, art and confidence - especially art! I’ve read about guys on dating sites that use the same ‘first email’ time and time again with huge success. Where did this ‘first email’ come from?

Well, over a period of time, through alot of trial and error, they have developed a simple email, probably just a few paragraphs long (maybe three), that conveys a positive, interesting image of them-selves - this is important!

Anyone can do this. As you test it on different girls, you can fine tune it. Also, it just becomes a simple template that you can modify to suit other girls’ profiles. Remember your goal is to get a date, so you can get to know her better.

Here’s two examples I’ve used in the past which proved to be fairly successful.

“Hi Jane,

I quickly glanced at your pic – hey cute – and spent some time looking at your profile. Wow, we got a few things in common, especially working in the local community! I spend some free time helping out at the local youth centre, it gives me such a good feeling.

Have a look my profile and I’m sure you’ll get in touch ;-) Anyway, have a nice day.

Jack.”

“Hey Paula,

Quickly checked your profile and picture this morning and noticed you live London. Wot a great city! Never been there but heard so much about it. Perhaps it would be a great place to meet?

I’ve worked in a number of cities around the world, especially in Europe. Wonderful part of the world! I was a student but just got my first job as a graphic designer – exciting stuff.

Have you been to Europe?

Jack”

Some info about creating your first successful email:-

• It must be positive – no negativity at all!


• Keep it simple, about two paragraphs (no more)– she does not want to read your life story!


• If you can, add a little bit of humour. In the email above I use ‘and I’m sure you’ll get in touch – wink wink’. It’s a touch cheeky and humorous.


• Never brag! It's a BIG turn off for women - modesty and honesty is best policy!


• Make your-self sound interesting - everyone is interesting to some degree. No-one wants to meet a bore!


• Don’t focus too much on her looks, show more interest in her profile.