Singles Dating: What Women Want

Single women dating online and off usually know exactly what they're looking for in single men -- whether they're looking to find a date; meet friends; find single guys for romance; find men for a serious relationship; or find a soul mate. But each woman is different and there is an infinite amount of characteristics that could be considered attractive when seeking men at web dating services and in the usual offline circles.

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In terms of internet dating, what is ‘relationship dating’? Well, it’s surprisingly simple! It’s all about meeting people off internet dating sites with the intention of developing meaningful relationships and not simply having casual or discreet affairs.

I suspect, in the majority of cases, this applies to more mature and experienced people, as casual dating loses its appeal after a while.

In fact some internet dating websites are touting their sites as the ideal places to meet sincere and committed people interested in long-term relationships.

One example of such a site is PerfectMatch. This website was featured in the movie Must Love Dogs.

Here’s some text from the site: “PerfectMatch.com is a community of singles serious about finding love and lasting relationships. It utilizes the Duet personality profiler test developed by Dr. Pepper Schwartz.”

So, if you’re looking for a long-lasting relationship, perhaps this dating site may be the best place to start.

Below are 10 online dating tips for men by Erika Lawal.

1. Starting online profiles or correspondence with "God, this is so hard! What do I say about myself?" If it's that hard, it doesn't bode well for the future…..

2. Beginning chat on sites with "Hi, do you fancy a chat?". Women often get inundated with correspondence, so something which stands out from the rest is needed.

3. Being overly sexual in tone at the very first exchange - "I'd love fish pie for dinner" is NOT the way to attract a lifelong mate...

5. Being asked to say why you've declined the advances of a man who's ugly, with no personality or prospects, doing so under duress (politely of course) then him being pissed because he's been given the truth!.....if you can't stand the heat…..don't ask!!

6. Men who don't bother to write anything about themselves, don't post photos, then complain that they never get any responses from women - like what is she supposed to go on?

7. Men who don't bother to write anything about themselves, and expect women to "interview" them; "right, what do you want/need to know about me?" It's supposed to be fun guys, not about presenting for a job!

8. Cut-and-paste jobs…especially when the joins show!.

9. Being pestered after you've made it clear you aren't
interested...

Don't forget, please email us your experiences, thoughts or dating tips.

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This post follows on from the Geek Dating post. After doing some further research I realised dating for geeks is a very popular subject, so here’s some geek dating tips for men:

• Women can smell fear – or a lack of self-confidence – a mile away so learn to fake-it (self-confidence that is)!
• When talking to a ‘normal’ woman do not mention geek-speak
• Being nice to a woman does not mean buying her a laptop
• Dating is not a logical process
• The first date should not be in an Internet cafe
• S&M has nothing to do with tying up a woman with USB leads
• You should not propose to a woman in Silicon Valley
• Seeing a girl twice-a-week has nothing to do with relationship management
• As the male (technically-minded) it is your job to approach the female (non technically-minded)
• The Kama Sutra is a ‘technical’ manual of sorts
• The purpose of a date is to have fun not discuss algorithms
• STDs are not related to CPUs
• Finally, women and logic are mutually exclusive!

If you have any more geek dating tips please keep them to your-self!

Do most guys know the do's and dont's of a first date?

Here's some tips from a www.adventures-of-a-pua.com about first date tactics for guys.

Never-ever brag! Bragging suggests you are trying to impress a girl which is a serious mistake! You want her to think of you as challenge somebody she has to chase, and not the other way round!

Generally, don’t talk about past relationships. Relationship talk is usually serious and deep, and a first date should be light-hearted and fun!

Don’t pay for all the drinks and a meal, if you eat. Go Dutch and share the cost. This is important simply because you want to come across as a challenge to the girl, somebody she has to pursue, instead of you chasing her. If she has to share the cost of drinks and/or a meal then she will find you a challenge unlike most other men!

Click here for the first date article.

Your looking through the pictures on a popular dating site and come across a sexy girl you like. You look at her profile and think, ‘wow, we got things in common’.

So what do you do now? The first email you send to her is probably the most important email, because, if she doesn’t reply, you don’t get a date

So what do you put in your first email? From personal experience, this comes down to science, art and confidence - especially art! I’ve read about guys on dating sites that use the same ‘first email’ time and time again with huge success. Where did this ‘first email’ come from?

Well, over a period of time, through alot of trial and error, they have developed a simple email, probably just a few paragraphs long (maybe three), that conveys a positive, interesting image of them-selves - this is important!

Anyone can do this. As you test it on different girls, you can fine tune it. Also, it just becomes a simple template that you can modify to suit other girls’ profiles. Remember your goal is to get a date, so you can get to know her better.

Here’s two examples I’ve used in the past which proved to be fairly successful.

“Hi Jane,

I quickly glanced at your pic – hey cute – and spent some time looking at your profile. Wow, we got a few things in common, especially working in the local community! I spend some free time helping out at the local youth centre, it gives me such a good feeling.

Have a look my profile and I’m sure you’ll get in touch ;-) Anyway, have a nice day.

Jack.”

“Hey Paula,

Quickly checked your profile and picture this morning and noticed you live London. Wot a great city! Never been there but heard so much about it. Perhaps it would be a great place to meet?

I’ve worked in a number of cities around the world, especially in Europe. Wonderful part of the world! I was a student but just got my first job as a graphic designer – exciting stuff.

Have you been to Europe?

Jack”

Some info about creating your first successful email:-

• It must be positive – no negativity at all!


• Keep it simple, about two paragraphs (no more)– she does not want to read your life story!


• If you can, add a little bit of humour. In the email above I use ‘and I’m sure you’ll get in touch – wink wink’. It’s a touch cheeky and humorous.


• Never brag! It's a BIG turn off for women - modesty and honesty is best policy!


• Make your-self sound interesting - everyone is interesting to some degree. No-one wants to meet a bore!


• Don’t focus too much on her looks, show more interest in her profile.

We've asked dozens of women want they want from a men in every area of a romantic relationship! Their responses may shock and surprise many men! As we find time we'll update this section.

"I think respect is by far the most important ingredient to a successful relationship. At first, most relationships are great, however, after a period of time some partners begin to take the other for granted and so a loss of respect begins. This has happened to most of my relationships. But now as soon as things start to slide I now point it out and either resolve it or end the relationship.

Since doing this I have found a brilliant man and dumped numerous no-hopers! It really works. Demand RESPECT girls or dump your men!" Linda, Halifax, UK

"I like my man to treat me like a lady: doors opened for me, help with putting my coat on and I never go to the bar for drinks! In terms of housework, I expect to share everything except putting the garbage out. I like lots of attention especially compliments. So when I wear something new I expect him to notice and compliment me.

Sexually, I expect my man to be out-going and to take the initiative although I try to sometimes. I expect him to want to try out new and different things - experimentation is always fun.

The worst thing I hate about some men is arrogance. Men who are bigheaded are usually shallow and really have very little to boast about. I would definitely steer clear of any man who brags constantly, because they are almost certainly deceptive and insincere. This my big NO-NO where men are concerned." Carol, New York, USA

There’s been many times in the past where I’ve been involved in exchanging emails with a girl on a popular dating site and suddenly she stops responding for no reason!

She stops replying and I don’t hear from her again and I often feel like cancelling my subscription on the dating site.
I’ve spent many, many hours trying to work out why. Why, when everything is going great, having fun and we’re learning about each other, why does she stop emailing me?

Is it something I said? Did she suddenly change her mind? Has she got back with an old boyfriend? Has she met some one else? Has a family tragedy occurred? Do I smell? There’re perhaps a million and one reasons why she stopped emailing me.

At first I took it personal, like a personal insult. But, over a period of time I realised it wasn’t personal, and it was silly to take it personal! There may be many legitimate reasons why she stopped, but she simply decided to stop and I should accept that.

I remember once I emailed a girl 15 TIMES to ask her why she didn’t reply! That was SAD and HUMILIATING! She NEVER replied!

Nowadays, if I don’t get a reply I email them once to remind them and that’s it! If I don’t get a reply, then there are probably many genuine reasons, so I move onto the next girl I like on the dating site. It’s that simple!

I don’t take it personal anymore and nor should you. In fact, there’s a few times when they’ve got back to me at some later date explaining the reason why they couldn’t respond in the first place!

So, don’t take it personal!